The One Where You Do What You Have To
I mentioned in a previous weigh in how, even though it costs a little more, I am getting the individual serves of things instead of buying bulk containers. As someone with binge habits in her past, having the individual serves can be the difference between eating and getting on with life and struggling with that urge to eat more than I need.
But, like with a lot of things, people who haven’t been through the same experiences you have don’t always understand why doing something as simple as getting a bowl of yogurt from a big tub of yogurt could be hard.
My husband and I were buying groceries and, while he reached for his usual big container of yogurt, I went for the six pack of individual serves.
He looked at me and asked, “Why don’t you just get a tub?”
I explained to him that it was hard for me if I used t a big tub, so for the time being, I wanted to use individual serves. I didn’t explain myself well (hello, public grocery store, people wandering by), but I made it clear that the individual serves are just something I need right now to stay on track. He didn’t look all that impressed.
To my husband’s credit, he realized it was important to me and just said, “Okay.”
Therein is one of the reasons I love him. He doesn’t know what it’s like for me to stand with a big tub of yogurt and have that voice needling, “Just a bit more, it’s okay.” And yet, he trusts me to know what I need when it comes to these things. He may disagree and he may not like spending the extra money, but he does love and trust me.
After that, though, I re-realized that no one can do this stuff for you. You need to do what you need to do, and you also have to stand up for what your needs are. Even if they may make you feel silly, if they get you to where you need to be, then why not do them?
March 26th, 2009 at 8:50 pm
Awww, what great support!
And good for YOU for recognizing what you need to do right now!
March 29th, 2009 at 6:19 pm
Thank you.
He is a great support, even when he doesn’t understand my decisions. Hehe.